Every Timeout Dialogue begins with agreeing on the Ground Rules for Constructive Dialogue, which help create an equal and reflective space for everyone.
- Listen to others without interrupting or having side conversations. “Everyone will have the opportunity to share their thoughts in peace today. Let’s make sure we don’t interrupt one another or start side conversations. Let’s stay present in this moment and focus on each other. Please keep phones away during the dialogue.”
- Share your own experiences and perspectives. “To better understand the topic — and one another — it’s helpful to share personal reflections and experiences related to the theme. This might mean talking about situations or events that have shaped our viewpoints. Feel free to continue from where the previous person left off.”
- Allow room for unfinished thoughts and different viewpoints. “Together, we’ll explore this theme and the perspectives it brings up. No one needs to have the right answers. It’s okay not to agree — during or after the dialogue. Let’s also bring up things that may have been overlooked and ask each other open questions.”
- Respect others and keep the dialogue confidential. “Let’s value the dignity of everyone — including those who aren’t present today. Respect doesn’t mean accepting discriminatory words or actions. There’s no need to debate or try to win. Keeping the dialogue confidential allows everyone to speak openly and freely.”
These Ground Rules for Constructive Dialogue were updated in September 2025, based on experiences and feedback from Timeout dialogues. The earlier six rules have now been refined into four — but you’re always free to adapt them to suit your group and dialogue topic.
The Timeout approach is flexible and can be shaped to fit your context. Use your own insight and experience to create a space that supports thoughtful participation and genuine exchange.
Wishing you a constructive and meaningful dialogue!
